Let’s drop the Labels
Robyn Lawley, (Plus Size) Model
The message in the media today, is that a woman’s beauty is defined by how thin she is. I for one, am really fed up with this unrealistic ideal that has been forced on us by the media. If I see another photo-shopped image of a waif thin model, made to appear even thinner, I think I am going to scream. When mass media sends implicit messages that in order to be beautiful we, as women, need to strive for unrealistic goals in order to look like the women gracing the covers of the magazines, that’s when I say enough’s enough. It’s time to boycott their magazines and send very loud and clear messages to those companies that endorse the “thinnifying” of women, that we want to see real women who look like us, on the pages of the fashion magazines. Now I am not putting down naturally thin women, as every women’s body is unique and some naturally have very slender physiques. What I do have a problem with is the photo enhancement that takes place, to make the models appear even more Barbi Doll perfect, and unrealistic. I also have issues with the modeling industry placing pressure on models to be ultra thin. It’s not always healthy nor is it a natural state of being for some of these models.
My Alternate Universe – Hot Flashes!
There are all sorts of body types, some people sweat in 50 degree weather and others wear five layers of clothing, two sweaters a winter parka and drape two blankets over them and that’s with the heat on in the house! The latter is me. I generally run cold like tap water in Alaska. So this phase in my life feels very odd to me, like I am making a guest appearance on the TV show LOST – the scenes where they are living in an alternate universe. Welcome to my alternate universe.
I live in the Pacific North West, where nights are cool to cold 350 days a year. I love to snuggle in my warm bed complete with flannel sheets, three blankets and a comforter. I am usually decked out with my wool socks, flannel pj’s and sometimes even a sweatshirt over my pj’s. My partner, Dana, thinks I’m crazy as he is outfitted with merely a t-shirt and shorts.
How is Your Weight Holding You Back?
When I think about all my years of gaining the same 30 pounds over and over again, and everything that it held me back from, I could just scream! How and What is your weight holding you back from?
For me, my weight issues kept my self esteem and confidence levels low. Every time I would lose weight, I felt terrific, I felt accomplished; only for a year later to step on the scale and see that the weight had found it’s way back on my body. This vicious cycle encouraged that little dark voice inside my head to constantly remind me “I can’t do that!” , ” I am really not a winner”, and “If I can’t maintain the weight loss how do I expect to achieve anything significant in life!”.
It was a rough road. I set my standards low and achieved mediocrity.
This self imposed mediocrity was all due to my self image. My self image took a beating because of my weight. Even when I wasn’t all that heavy, I saw myself as the fat girl. Growing up, my favorite cousin was thin as a rail, my best friend was also very slim, and my sister didn’t have a weight problem at all. I felt like the fat girl who could never really achieve greatness because of how bad she felt about herself.